My First Blog Post

February 28, 2019

For those who do not know me my name is Alexander Deets, and I am the HIV guy.  I am so excited to have an opportunity to share my life experience in a way that can help people living with HIV, recently diagnosed or long term survivors, be the absolute best version of themselves. As a person diagnosed with HIV, I understand the multitude of challenges that living with HIV present in all aspects of life.

Why start a blog?

When I received my HIV diagnoses, I felt as if I had no one to confide in and nowhere to go. I didn’t want to worry my family about my health as I still didn’t know enough about it myself. As part of the LGBT community, we are bombarded with HIV awareness campaigns so I felt that my friends wouldn’t understand. Lastly, I felt that if I told anyone at work that I would get terminated since I was a massage therapist working for a national massage chain. I felt alone and the only people who could answer my questions where the doctors, nurses, and case workers who had other patients to attend. The worst part of all is that I couldn’t find an open community where I could walk in anonymously to listen to others talk about their struggles. Creating a community is the reason for creating this blog!

What should I expect?

Being the best possible version of yourself, as a person living with HIV, will be the main topic of this blog. I want to share my intimate personal experiences to illustrate how it is possible to overcome common HIV related ailments such as depression, fatigue, and various other HIV related issues. I want to show you that there is a vibrant, inclusive, and progressive world of HIV philanthropy that is waiting for you with open arms. I will also be adding in some HIV related book reviews, movie reviews, personal opinions, guest bloggers, and some unsolicited advice to keep things interesting! I will be upfront with you and let you know that writing has never been a strong suit of mine.  I ask that during this trial and error phase that you, please bear with me on any grammar/spelling mistakes.

In Conclusion…

You do not need to be HIV-positive to learn, grow, and thrive from this blog. I want newly diagnosed HIV-positive individuals to gain some insight into the new world of living with HIV, for those long term survivors I want to offer a fresh perspective to the evolving face of HIV, and for allies/curious an invitation to become part of the solution to end HIV once and for all. If you believe that this blog would be useful to some of your friends, followers or colleagues, please feel free to share it. You can also follow me on your favorite social media as TheHIVGuy.

I look forward to sharing lots of inspirational messages and resources with you.


  • Reply
    James Deets
    February 28, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    I just had to be the one to leave the very first comment on your very first blog post. Well done baby, you are an amazing person, husband and philanthropist! 🙂

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    Jeffrey Gorczynski
    February 28, 2019 at 9:07 pm

    Love your ‘positive’ perspective! Can’t wait to follow you on your amazing journey!

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    Jeffery Parks
    February 28, 2019 at 10:02 pm

    Congratulations on your new forum, Alexander. I look forward to following your blog and seeing how your efforts help our community as well as how you grow personally in the process. As one of those long-term survivors you mention, I also look forward to hearing your fresh perspectives and to help encourage you into leadership roles. I’m glad you’ve found your voice and, on behalf of the HIV community, I’d like to thank you for all you are doing. ♥️ ~ Jeffery Parks

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      Dave OLenick
      March 1, 2019 at 5:02 am

      Alexander congratulations on this first step. I read very carefully and it is a big step and you should be proud of your determination. Encouragement is vefy hard to come by in this world. Except from that very first comment person! (I knew it would be you James?) One other thought I had as I read this is you have a great deal of courage along with your caring heart. Keep them both strong. Also: Hey Jeffery Parks – you could be a future guest blogger with some thoughts and insights?

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